The Ultimate 5-Step Framework To Regain Control Of Your Health (Part 2)
You’ve already cultivated a mindset of responsibility and set up the structures to succeed in Part 1. Let’s take it a step further and turn you into an unstoppable man on a mission.
Step 4. Developing a Masculine Mindset
Your reality is made up of perceptions and actions.
Both of these are the total summary of who you are at this very moment in time. Every perception and action has led to now. They also directly determine where you will be in the future.
Luckily you control them both utterly and completely. No one can control how you perceive the world. No one can control your actions.
You are in charge.
You don’t always get what you wish for, but you get what you think you deserve.
It’s a ‘glass half empty, glass half full’ approach. How do you perceive the world? Because, how you perceive it is exactly how it is. We create our own reality. Being able to focus on the good rather than the bad begins to train your brain to naturally do so. It gets easier to notice all the good. This soon becomes an upward spiral of gratitude and mindfulness.
How you react to situations determines your physiological and mental response. Do you react immediately based on emotion, or are you able to take a breath, consider the options and react accordingly.
Being busy is often a perception stemming from lack of prioritisation and planning. Perceiving all things as equal will lead to you spread extremely thin, sometimes beyond the breaking point After you perceive a situation, you take what you believe is the most correct form of action.
Therefore, you are the summary of every past action you’ve ever made.
Where you’re at right this very second is a result of the decisions you made in the past. We are products of what we repeatedly do, and if you want to change your outcome, you have to change your daily actions.
Right now, at this very moment, you are everything you have ever done.
If this is the case, every action you take matters. Every single one of them. Actions (and inactions) have consequences, and consequences have consequences. There is no way around it, you must be aware of your actions. You are in control.
Imagine your future self in five years time. If every single action of your past has led you to where you are now, every action from now until then will determine where you end up. With that in mind, what little things can you do now which will improve your future? Each will take you down a different path. And, at the end of the day, you’re responsible for yourself. Only you can control your reactions and actions.
Everything you do matters and you are responsible for everything that happens.
Step 5. Take Relentless Action
If you do nothing after reading this you’ve wasted your time. You don’t need more information. You need to take action. You need to do the work.
Part 1. The Myth of Motivation
Here’s how most try to improve their health.
They wait for motivation to strike. Maybe they watch 300 and compare their bodies to the shredded physiques of the Spartans. Or maybe they see an old mate who is in much better shape than them.
Either way, motivation pulsates through them and spurs them into action. This surge of motivation inspires them to change everything at once – hitting the gym every single day for 10 days while only eating chicken and broccoli. This lasts for the 10 days and then the gym pass isn’t used for months. In passing, they see the same guy again… and the cycle starts again.
Here’s the truth: motivation doesn’t work.
Motivation -> Inspiration -> Action = wrong
If you’re waiting until your motivated to do something you’ll never get far. Here’s how it really works:
Action -> Inspiration -> Motivation
Action comes first. Action creates inspiration. Action creates motivation. Relying on inspiration is unsustainable, immature, and limiting. Yet, this is the framework for how most people live their lives.
“Action is not just the effect of motivation; it is also the cause of it.”
– Mark Manson
Inspiration is fleeting and unreliable; you can go months without it. To rely on it is not a winning strategy. Ignore inspiration — if it’s there, great. Use it. If it’s not, act anyway. This is how you create sustainable motivation in the first place. Instead of waiting to “feel” like you’re ready, act before you’re ready.
You are in charge of your life — your actions, behaviours, and choices. You can act despite not feeling inspired.
Part 2. Consistency Over Perfection
If you ask me what the most important thing in regaining control of your health is I’ll always answer with one, single word.
Consistency is the most important factor which will make or break your success.
The fact is this will all take time to accomplish. Everything you will ever need is in this framework but that doesn’t take anything away from the work you’ll have to do. It’s not easy. If it were, you wouldn’t be in the situation you are now. You must be consistent with your efforts over a long period. Show up, every single day, and do the work.
Aim to go to sleep a better man than the one you woke up as.
Taking responsibility, setting the process and creating the structure will go a long way to helping you be consistent in your mission. In the day to day heat of the battle, it will come down to you saying, “Alright. Today I will do the things I know I need to do.”
And get it done.
Part 3. The Necessity For Accountability
You are influenced by the people you surround yourself with.
In your mission, you need to find positive influences as it will make doing the work easier. The best ways to do this is to hire a coach and join a team.
A professional coach is the pinnacle of accountability. Someone you are financially invested in. Someone who can guide you through this framework, troubleshoot obstacles, have real conversations with and actually cares about you. A person who you deeply don’t want to disappoint.
Joining a team takes this accountability further. A tight-knit group on the same mission will provide you with more reasons to get out of bed every morning. More people you don’t want to let down and more people who are sharing the same experience – friendships forged in the heat of change are meaningful.
If you’re able to find the right accountability regaining control of your health is inevitable.